1. I can tell by watching that my child is wetting or filling his diaper:

• Never
• Sometimes
• Usually

2. My toddler’s diaper needs to be changed:

• Frequently, every hour or two
• It varies
• Every two to three hours — sometimes less frequently

3. My child understands the meaning of wet, dry, clean, wash, sit, and go:

• No
• Some of them
• Yes

4. When my child communicates her needs, she:

• Says or signs a few basic words and I guess the rest
• Gets her essential points across to me
• Has a good vocabulary and talks to me in sentences

5. If I give my child a simple direction, such as, “put this in the toy box,” she:

• Doesn’t understand or doesn’t follow directions
• Will do it if I coach or help her
• Understands me and does it

6. My child can take his pants off and put them on:

• No
• With help he can
• Yes

7. When I read a book to my child, he:

• He ignores me
• Sometimes listens, sometimes wanders off
• Sits, listens and enjoys the story

8. My toddler wants to do things “all by myself”:

• Never
• Sometimes
• All the time!

9. I think that it’s the right time to begin potty training:

• No
• I’m undecided
• Yes

Total the number of responses for each letter:
a. __________
b. __________
c. __________

Most answers are a: Wait.
Your little one doesn’t seem to be ready just yet. Test again in a month or two.

Most answers are b: Time for pre-potty training–get ready!
Your child is not quite ready for active training, but you can take many steps to prepare your toddler for the future. Gradual introduction of terms and ideas will make potty training easier when the time comes.

Most answers are c: Your toddler is ready to use the potty!
It’s time to start your potty training adventure. Good luck, and have fun!

Are you between two scores? Just like any parenting situation, there are choices to make. If your child is hovering between two categories, it’s time to put your intuition to good use. Your knowledge of your own child can direct you toward the right plan of action.

This article is an excerpt from The No-Cry Potty Training Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Child Say Good-Bye to Diapers by Elizabeth Pantley. (McGraw-Hill, 2006)

Elizabeth Pantley is a mom of four, a parenting expert, attachment parenting supporter and the writer of several parenting books, including The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night and The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers. Elizabeth is a regular radio show guest and frequently quoted as a parenting expert in magazines such as Parents, Parenting, Working Mother, McCalls, Redbook and on over 50 parent-directed Web sites. She publishes a newsletter, Parent Tips, that’s distributed in schools nationwide.